Getting to know someone is difficult enough, but attempting to do so while juggling a mother's 24/7 schedule may be nearly impossible. Single people like me can just get up and go out on the spur of the moment, whereas parents must work around less flexible babysitter schedules. I'm selfish and unprepared for that type of circumstance because I don't have any children. However, many adults who go out with child mothers say that the time comes when they want more than just a night out but instead wish to have a long-term relationship with this person.
In fact, according to a study done by The Journal of Social Psychology, there are several advantages to going out with a child mother. People who date or marry other people who have children tend to report higher levels of happiness in their relationships than those who do not have children. Also, those who go out with child mothers say they enjoy being able to relax and take it easy without worrying about diapers, food, or sleep schedules. Finally, dating or marrying someone who has children gives people the opportunity to share in each other's experiences as parents rather than focusing on what each party does not have.
While it is true that having a baby mama provides you with some benefits, you also need to be aware of certain risks involved. For example, if you choose to go out with someone who has children from other relationships then you will both need to make sure that you are on the same page with regards to whose kids matter most.
With all due respect to all the single parents out there (and I mean that, I'm astounded by how you do it! ), I frequently feel like a single mom. With a 2-year-old and a 5-year-old, a job to commute to, and a spouse who travels for 2-3 nights every week, I often find myself doing it alone. There are not many families where one parent can travel internationally and still keep their family functioning. If my husband didn't travel, we would probably have a lot more in common, but since he does travel a lot, we really don't.
The first thing that comes to mind when I think about being a single mom is money. Without a doubt, money is the number one concern for me. We live in a very expensive city in Canada, so even with two jobs, we still need to make sure we're saving enough. If I wasn't able to find some way to bring in some extra cash, then we'd be in trouble.
Then there's time. As much as I'd like to be able to say that I have plenty of time to spend with our kids, that's just not true. Whether it's because of work or because my husband travels so much, we don't have much time together. Even when he is home, I'm usually too tired after working a full day at my other job to do anything else besides sleep and shop online.
Finally, there's mental health. This goes hand in hand with money.
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